Why is it so difficult to love ourselves?

As I work with people in my coaching, I am struck by the fact that the common underlying belief which causes everyone so much of their difficulties is they have a longstanding belief that they don’t deserve what they desire or they are not good enough to do what they want. We constantly are harassed by this internal critic who expects perfection in all we do. No matter how well things turn out or how many successes we have, the single thing that didn’t work out, the one thing we didn’t get finished, or the feeling that we could have done the task in a much better way, robs us of the satisfaction and joy that we could otherwise be enjoying. We don’t like how we look, how we feel, how old we are or where we live. We don’t like our job, we stay in abusive or unsatisfactory relationships and we feel we don’t measure up to the standards of others. I believe that this underlying belief causes of our stress, pain and ultimately our disease, addictions and mental illness. In addition to this, many of us are unconsciously passing these beliefs on to our children.

We have all been raised with the Golden Rule – “Do unto others as we would have others do unto us.” This is a wonderful way to live our lives but I think that in order to live this, we need to learn to love ourselves first.

I would like us to adopt a new rule that should be lived even before we live the Golden Rule. I call it the Platinum Rule – “Do unto yourself as you would wish to do unto others.” Many of us treat ourselves in ways we would never dream of treating others.

Isn’t it time to discover an easier softer way?

Contact me to explore so we can explore this further. I always offer a complimentary trial coaching session.

Create a wonderful weekend for yourself. I send you positive energy and love.

Bob Carscadden